You yourself dumped your partner a month ago. But, now you've changed your mind and want them back in your life. So, how do you do that without losing face? Crying, begging and pestering them on the phone are the worst things that you can do. They'll only lose respect for you and assume the upper hand.
Why not try the following steps and bring them crawling back to you. Even Diana (Online Dating Guide/Expert) from wheresinglesmeet.com expresses the same view.
1. Do reconnaissance: Before you begin, shake your friends' grapevine and find out if they are: a) out drinking and bonking anyone who'll have them' b) spending their evenings listening to 'your song' and weeping into their pillow c) interested in anyone else.
2. Broadcast your regret: Talk to your friends, because anything you tell them will soon reach your partner's ears. Let them know you miss them, but say it matter-of-factly without groveling.
3. Keep it light: Tear can be quite terrifying. May be, your partner is trying to convince himself/herself that they are better off with out you. Reverse the process by reminding them of all the good time you've had. Keep the conversion light and flirtatious. Never on any account, ask them out at this stage.
4. Do the things they loved: Remember the things your partner always asked you to do with him. For instance, how he always bugged you to go with him to soccer or some noisy open-air concert? He's probably remembers you as a boring NATO (no action, talk only) gal. Prove him wrong: Arrange a trip with friends and e-mail him about it.
5. Talk to a gorgeous guy/gal: Use the most powerful weapon: jealousy. Frequent the club they hang around regularly at and make sure they see you with the best-looking man/women there.
6. Keep your cool: Run into them accidentally on purpose, especially on days you are dressed up and look ravishing. Pretend you're in a hurry and keep the conversation short. As you leave, say something like: 'let's go for coffee sometime and catch up.' Keep it causal and smile, or they may think you want to tell him you're engaged. Then, see the effect'.
7. Chinch the deal: Set up that date foe coffee or an after-work drink and suggest you meet there, but don't put any pressure. Initially, they'll be a little on edge. So, keep things friendly and light. After an hour of catching up and laughing together, they'll be wondering why you ever broke up in the first place!