What? You say. No Saturday dates after Wednesday? What is this 1952? Well no its not, it is 2005 and sometimes old dating rules still apply to later times. Why does it matter you ask? As long as hes asking you out then it shouldnt matter. If hes asking you out that means hes interested, who cares if he calls you Friday afternoon for a Friday night day. Right?

Wrong. It does matter when hes asking you out. And this is why: People value their weekends. In a world where people can easily clock sixty hour weeks the time they have off is precious and important to them. People want to enjoy their weekends, so most people tend to plan their weekends in advance. They like to know what they are doing and who they are spending their time with. So if a guy is calling you Friday afternoon for a Friday night date then it probably means whatever other plans he had fell through and youre his plan B. And I dont know about you but I dont want to be anyones plan B.

Still dont believe me? Look at it from this point of view: You teach people how to treat you (a theme you will here me repeat time and time again). And by accepting a last minute date from someone, youre sending the message that not only is your time not valuable, because they can call you anytime and youll be free, but that youll drop whatever youre doing to be with them.

Even if you didnt have any plans, you dont want to send the message that youre available whenever they feel like calling to ask you out. The bottom line is when a guy is really interested in a woman hes going to make plans with her early in the week because if he doesn't, hell be afraid she will make plans with someone else. So like I said, if youre getting that weekend phone call for a date, then you werent his first choice. And no one ever wants to be second.

(C) 2005 Tamika Johnson